So, now that Karter is 6 weeks old, I have a few little tips for new moms to make the first 6 weeks with baby as smooth as possible. Some of these were given to me by other people, some I learned the hard way and some on retrospect would have been a good idea 🙂 For those loving a little one with colic, sleep issues or feeding issues these will be doubly important!
1. Say no to extras.
This is not the time to commit to another committee at church, throw a Christmas party for your coworkers or invite friends over for a five course dinner. For 6 weeks, say no. Just do it. NO. You and your baby will be happier, healthier and more rested.
2. Stay home.
Right alongside rule #1 is stay at home. Send someone else to get the groceries, pick up the kids or run errands. Clear your calendar of any ‘going away’ activities. Unless you really feel like you need a breath of fresh air, just stay at home in your p.j.’s and enjoy it! You’ll be surprised how exhausting it will be for you mentally and physically just to go to the store for a few minutes. So don’t. Just stay home. Though I would say, if you’re feeling up to it a walk outside is a wonderful way to get some air and feel like a human again! But no pressure 🙂
3. Accept help.
There will be people at every turn offering to bring you meals, run some errands, babysit your other children or clean your house for you. Say yes! Even though you know you haven’t done well in the past offering help to others, or you feel like that person deserves help more than you do…say yes! People don’t offer unless they genuinely want to help, so just accept it. Before you know it the tables will be turned and you will get a chance to return the favor. This is part of the beauty of being a part of a community. It takes a village to raise a child…starting in the first 6 weeks!
4. Hold your baby.
Whenever you get the chance, every time you want to…hold your baby. Just sit and stare down at that little face, the perfect little fingers and toes and the tiny turned up nose. Stroke that soft head and kiss those sweet cheeks. Before you know it your baby will be kicking and giggling, but right now all she wants in the world is to be close to you. The world feels big and strange to her and your arms are her safe place. So don’t be afraid to just sit and hold your baby. It’s satisfying, peaceful and bonding.
5. Take naps.
Schedules will come later. Right now both you and baby are just figuring out the new world you live in so don’t expect to have a predictable sleep schedule yet. Throw the clock out the window and just follow your baby’s lead. If 3 am is his awake time, then unfortunately there is very little you can do to change that! So sleep when he sleeps and be ready to chat when he’s awake. If it’s almost dinner time but baby is falling asleep and you’re exhausted…grab a quick bite and then head for your bed or the couch. Soon enough baby will get onto some type of schedule but for now just sleep whenever you can 🙂
So that’s what I learned…any thing to add all you moms out there?
I’d love to hear what things helped you get through those first 6 weeks or what things you wish you would’ve done!